In a relationship you experience another as a distinct person. You see the other person through two filters. Firstly, you actually see the person in a bodily sense and your emotions report the experience. Secondly, you see the person through your interior life, your likes, your ideals, and your concept of good.
If the relationship
is sustained it will develop as a result of your actions and experiences.
The other person becomes an object of your will, through the actions
that you exert towards him or her. Each relates to the other in
a subject-object association. You see and act upon a person object.
Meanwhile the roles are reversed. The other person sees and acts